Sabotaging your weight loss efforts involves more than just cheating on your diet. It happens when you set goals you can’t meet and when you refuse to give yourself the praise you deserve.

It doesn’t have to be that way. Use this guide to turn self-sabotage into support.

Go the Distance

You want to reach your goal weight fast. So you say “I’m going to go to the gym for 2 hours every single day!” Or, you promise yourself, “I’m going to lose 30 pounds for that wedding next month!”

Taking that approach to weight loss simply won’t work. For one there very unrealistic things to achieve and sustain more importantly.

Instead, take small steps toward a realistic goal. It will keep you moving steadily forward. It may take longer than you’d like, but you’re much more likely to stick with your plan. You can set smaller goals along the way, too. And they don’t all have to involve the scales.

For example:

Add one more day of exercise to your week, and stick with it for a month.
Add one more glass of water to your day over the course of a week; it will help you feel fuller.
Go to bed 5 minutes early every day for a week until you’re hitting the sack about 8 hours before you have to wake.

Celebrate each time you meet a small goal. Treat yourself to something small other than food rewards, so a nice outfit or a day trip to your favorite place to visit would be a better option.

Begin to Face Your Fears

These are common conversations you might have going on in your head

“I’ll go to the gym tomorrow at 7 a.m.,” you promise yourself.

But then a friend calls for breakfast. Or you’re running late for work. Or you’re too tired to get up early.

“I’ll go tomorrow, for sure,” you say. And the cycle of procrastination continues.

The likely culprit: fear. To start a new course, ask yourself, “Why am I afraid to go to the gym?”

The answer might be a faulty belief, like telling yourself you’re a failure or weak. You could be trying to protect yourself from the shame or embarrassment that you’ve let yourself down which in turn is effecting your exercise cycle.

Fears come in all reasons and rationales. You think other people will be jealous if you lose weight, and they may stop hanging out with you. You believe that people will notice you more if you take action, and you’re not confident you’ll know how to respond. Noticing a fear is the first step to overcoming it.

Slowly Break Away from Old Patterns

Occasional treats are fine. But if you often think of food as a reward when you’ve had a rough day, or even when you’ve eaten well that’s a red flag.

Dig a bit deeper. When you’re tempted to give in to reward eating, take 5 minutes to write down what’s going on.

Think about the automatic thoughts you had. Automatic thoughts are what you say to yourself. They’re how you interpret what you hear and see, which doesn’t always match the facts.

When you’re upset, write down what your first negative thought was, and look at it objectively.

Are my feelings based on facts?
What would someone else think about what happened?
Is my reaction reasonable given what happened?
After you’ve had this kind of thinking, write out a more realistic thought, one with a more balanced perspective.
Finally, write what you could do next time you’re upset or in a similar situation that would be more effective.

Try changing your mindset and use these approaches in the future to keep you on track.

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